I am often asked by candidates, why they did not receive an offer. They want feedback so they can improve their interview style or technique and do better on the next interview.
Often what I hear for feedback is:
• not a good cultural fit
• lacked industry specific experience
• failed to show enthusiasm for the position
• failed to follow up with a thank you letter or email
• failed to make eye contact
Recently, I relayed the company’s decision and the candidate asked me for specifics. The hiring manager did not feel that the candidate connected with him during the interview and did not believe the candidate would be a good cultural fit for the company.
Instead of saying thank you I got harassment (eleven phone calls and 48 emails). I was still trying to get the candidate to understand my client had offered someone else the job.
If you ask for feedback, don’t take it as a personal attack. Sometimes it just wasn’t meant to be and it truly has nothing to do with you personally. Sometimes it’s meant as constructive criticism and to be helpful. Wouldn’t you want to know if you are not making eye contact? Or you are twirling your hair or blinking insanely or biting your nails?
When we are nervous, some habits and nervous mannerisms appear and you may not even be aware of them.
So if you ask for feedback, please take it as graciously as possible and consider the person relaying the information may truly just be trying to help.